Do you ever feel like you are in the midst of chaos and you’re being pulled in multiple directions? Are you so busy you don’t know whether you are coming or going? Do you spend your days exhausted on edge? You’re not alone. Most days I still feel this way. This past weekend I led a workshop at Camp Calvary’s Ladies Retreat. We discussed how to set goals for our lives while keeping God at the center of it.
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I want to share some of the things you are going to find in the workbook and how to use it!
Dive into God’s word on our Biblical Role as Women.
First, you will dive into several scriptures about what the bible says about our role as women. You examine these scriptures and answer a few questions about what the bible says a Godly woman looks like and God’s desire for us as a woman.
Why set goals?
A year or so ago, I completed a study called Wife School by Julie Gordon. I participated in this study first, then I led a small group based on this study to our Wednesday night small group. At the end of our study, we had Julie Gordon (https://juliengordon.com/wife-school-online/) come and speak and had a women’s event. This is recorded and on youtube, you can find them here. If you haven’t heard of wife-school and you are a married woman I highly recommend it.
The reason I reference this is that something she said in her study really hit home with me and I have not forgotten it. At the time I completed this study, I was working full-time as a teacher. My husband and I desired for me to be able to stay at home with our boys. I had several irons in the fire, as it is easy for all of us to do, and as I do now. Working took up a lot of my time and energy. I would come home stressed, not be pleasant to be around, and feel like I was not doing a very good job at being a wife, mother, and managing the home. It was also difficult for me to find time to spend in God’s word. (Not that I have it all together now. There are still times that I lack in all of these areas and these are still daily struggles I have.)
How many goals do I set?
Wife school excerpt:
You can’t have it all. That’s just life. One reason some of us are exhausted is because we are trying to have a great marriage, be great parents, have wonderful businesses, serve at the church for hours, workout for hours, have a great social network, grow a hobby/interest, and four other goals. Seth Godin has taken Zig Ziglar’s goal system from the 1970’s and basically boiled it down to this: Determine only four goals (Ziglar said six goals). If you try to do more than that, you’ll end up doing nothing because you’ll be scattered. “Focus” is the key to productivity. So pick a few things in life that you know God has called you to do and let other things go. (If you are young, read Titus 2:4-5 for your assignment from God for now.) You can’t have it all or do it all. ….. You can’t do it all or you’ll not do the main things well. Have some margins.
Goals vs. Objectives
Goals can be long term or short term. Long-term goals cover a long period of time. This can be a months, years, lifetime. Short-term goals cover a short period of time. We are going to create short-term goals and call them objectives. Objectives are smaller more specific goals that allow you to complete your long-term goals successfully. Goals are supposed to be measurable and relevant. Our goals may not seem very measurable, but our objectives will. Your goals need to be relevant to you. If you are not, married, you won’t have a goal about loving your husband. If you don’t have kids, you’re not going to have a goal about pouring into your kids….etc.
How do I determine my goals?
Depending on your stage of life your goals may look different. Some of you have young children if that’s the case you are going to want to develop your goals from Titus 2. If your children are grown, or you are unmarried, use some of the other verses to develop goals for your life.
The goals you develop are going to be what is most important to you. Your priorities. Even though all of our goals are different. I have a feeling most of us desire to have God at the center of our lives. We desire to love the Lord with our whole heart, body, mind. If God is going to be at the center of your life he has to be a priority. We have to be intentional about seeking out time to spend with him.
I don’t always balance life well. But what really helps is when I know what my goals are in life and what my priorities are. That makes it easier to say no to things that don’t line up with my priorities and goals. Granted this is not always applicable.
It is okay to say NO!
If we have too much on our plate we will be spread too thin. We will not be able to do anything well. As a woman, it is easy to want to please others. We can easily fall into the trap of people pleasing. When this is the case we find it hard to say no to others. It is okay to say no. Sometimes we must say no for our own sanity.
When we say no to some things, we will be able to say Yes to what God has called us to do.
Easy? No. Worth it? Yes
Is this easy? No.. Do I fail daily in these areas? Absolutely. But by God’s grace, I can continue to strive. These goals are not measurable, they do not have a time to end, the work is never done. By immersing myself in God’s word and prayer, He teaches me what it means to love and how to live as He has called me, a Woman of God, to live.
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